The Soul Therapy 2-day "Love Whispers" seminar explores loving relationships from a shamanic and spiritual perspective. You may be single, living together or married and wish to gain a deeper understanding about fulfilling, loving, passionate and romantic relationships.

These are some of the seminar topics: the role of trust and honesty, changing your partner, the joy of acceptance, the power of emotions, the grip of the past, exit indicators, understanding the nature of love, healthy boundaries, overcoming the fear of abandonment and engulfment, relationship needs, surrender, empathy, using shamanic and spiritual energy to enhance a relationship, creating love magic, relationship phases.

Shamanism is an ancient philosophy and practice based on energy, freedom, unconditional love, compassion, and an appreciation of the mystery of life. Shamanism is not a religion or a ritualised dogma. It is simply a joyous and loving way of living on this earth, and a way to work with the living energies for the deepest benefit of all.

For more information click on the Life-Change Seminars button at the top of the page.

Are you tired of struggling in your existing relationship? Do you feel confused because you love your partner deeply, and you have been living together/married for years ... but you seem to argue so much, or your arguments are very intense, or you find yourself in a cycle of hurt, heartache and pain? Does your relationship look really good on paper (similar interests, income and values) ... but the passion and romance seems to have slowly disappeared? Do you feel empty and alone in your relationship? Are you getting your emotional, affection and sexual needs met?

Unfortunately we are never educated about love and romantic relationships, so as adults we are heading for pain and heartache. About 50% of Western marriages end in painful divorce; it's as high as 70% if you count people living together in committed relationships. Many people in current relationships wonder how it became so boring, lifeless, argumentative, hurtful, passionless, lonely, sad and unfulfilling. Where did it all go wrong?

Eventually many couples or individuals consider some form of counselling or psychotherapy. To truly change your romantic life, however, you need to learn love skills, love language, love techniques. You need to get the love and relationship education you never received at school or university. Like everything in life, once you know the secrets everything becomes really simple.

 

If you want a change in life, you need to learn something new,
and do something different!

If you want a change in scenery, go down a new road!

 

In tantra, you learn that your sexual needs and trigger points can change from day to day, and even from one moment to the next! One of the most important tools you learn is communication in the moment. When you are connecting with affectionate or sexual touch, you need to communicate to your partner what you like, desire, need and enjoy right now, in this moment. You both need to develop flexibility and accept that these desires and needs shift continually.

What does this mean for your relationship? How many of us get stuck in this cycle: My partner loves me and therefore should know me - he/she should know my emotional needs and desires - he/she is not meeting them - I get angry or I withdraw or I don't talk or I simmer for days then explode or I sulk or I walk out or my heart aches and I suffer silently. Yet how can any partner know your emotional and affection needs and desires if they keep changing, if they keep moving about?  It has nothing to do with how much your partner loves you - your partner is not psychic!

Communication is the key!

Talk to your partner often, and in the moment, using these phrases: "I feel ... I need ... I gently request with no expectations or demands ..."

You may be thinking that it is unromantic or uncomfortable to communicate your needs. Yet how romantic and fulfilling is your current strategy? Are your current beliefs helping or harming your relationship?

Please read this brilliant book for more details: Non-Violent Communication, A Language For Life by Marshall Rosenberg (available from the Soul Therapy Book Shop at the relationships category, or visit Amazon).

 

Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together
in the same direction. - - - Antoine de Saint-Exupery

 

Modern relationships may present a few challenges. There is attraction, connection, love, arguments, hate, disconnection, heartache, breakup, marriage, living together, affairs, divorce. Modern life is also peppered with an easy sex/don't care attitude.

Behind all the facades we erect, behind our tough 'whatever' exterior, deep down we are all the same - we have the same needs, and we seek the same things.

Each person on this planet desires in their deepest core to have a soul to soul connection. We hope we can meet the soul who is perfect for us. This person would be physically attractive, kind, caring, loving, affectionate, great in bed, loyal, trustworthy, passionate, romantic, honest, a good listener, similar interest and values, interesting ... my soul-mate!

We don’t know what we’ve got until we lose it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives! Where is your soul-mate? How will you find him/her?

 

Life without passion is merely existence! - - - Stephen Shaw

 

In the beginning of a relationship we experience the Honeymoon Stage which is often quite fun, passionate and romantic. This phase lasts a number of months, and the relationship seems easy and flowing. At some point, however, you transition into the Storming Stage. This is quite natural; it is a time of questions regarding compatibility and committment. You exit the Storming Stage either by finishing the relationship or by moving to the deeper Bonding Stage.

You should seriously consider finishing the relationship if there are specific deal-breakers, e.g. addictions, physical violence, unfaithful / betrayal / affair. A relationship is like a house - if you have no security, stability and trust then the foundation is weak, and the house will eventually crumble.

Many people find themselves in a relationship where the Honeymoon Stage is long over, yet there are no deal-breakers to indicate an exit.  The relationship seems to settle into a friendship where neither person feels emotionally fulfilled.  You may be living together or married for years but no longer seem be able to get your psychological, emotional, affection and sexual needs fulfilled.

 

Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame,
very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering.
As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes
as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable. - - - Bruce Lee

 

Who is Stephen Shaw? I practise as a psychic/clairvoyant therapist, shamanic energy worker, transformational life coach and life strategist doing personal consultations; and I facilitate life-change seminars to help people reach their dreams, discover abundance, and attain a deeper experience of life and love and joy. You can find me at Soul Therapy.

I have been called a guiding light, a gurutastic zen master, a magical shaman, a master of the nameless Tao, an incredible therapist and counsellor, an awesome spiritual teacher ... and of course these titles are meaningless ... all I do is guide you to being truly alive!

Here are some client testimonials:

"My thoughts on the course yesterday were 'Wow'!! Went home from the course with great enthusiasm and actually had a good chat with my hubby, and felt very good about myself! The line that has made a huge impact on me is: If it is To Be, it is up To Me."

"Stephen, thanks again for last week's training. I have taken a lot out of the week, both professional and personal, truly inspiring!"

"As for the wow points of the course, well simply the whole week."

 

Dance like nobody's watching; love like you've never been hurt. Sing
like nobody's listening; live like it's heaven on earth. - - - Mark Twain